Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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While I can see how not getting upset might be helpful, the rest of the story is completely unhelpful and makes no sense. He should stop blaming me TURNS INTO I should stop blaming him turns into I need me to accept him and his way of life TURNS INTO I need to accept myself and I need to accept my way of life!

Liked how the author points out that most of our suffering is caused by our perception of things and not the "thing" itself. g. the recognition that "should" statements in most cases signify nonacceptance or resistances that I'd do well to explore). Loving What Is will show you step by step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. I need Paul to listen to me and to stop lying to me and to share to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and be emotionally available and to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and be emotionally available and to be gentle and kind and patient.Likewise, it asks you to accept the past as it was, because that's the only way it can be -- you can't change it, only the way you relive it in your mind. That doesn't mean, as I mentioned below, that there isn't good to be found in this book or that it's not helpful to many. If the answer is always "no," which Byron Katie seems to believe it is, then there is absolutely no moral foundation. Out of nowhere, like a cool breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice, comes Byron Katie and “The Work.

Her book (and her questions, but mostly her interviews-as-examples) have the potential to help a lot of people deal with interpersonal issues (that she boils down to inner-personal). A truly illuminating and lively hookup of revered ancient Zen Diamond Sutra teachings and a wild and clear-eyed modern sage. But the truth is I wasn't ready or even able to hear or understand the concept of projection (even with a Master's in psychology! The simplicity of her steps, which breed deep insight in our own perceptions, and preconcieved notions. Most things in life that regard our interaction with others can be enhanced if we learn good boundaries and learn to understand it is only our thoughts about things that really affect us.

However, if you are tired of reliving over and over pain and hurt, this book may offer profound relief and a new freedom from terminal thinking.

Sure, it might help you overcome your fears or fix your relationship, but it won't address money or career issues, right? The Work" is a new level of introspection that I am now using with great results to work through my own personal problems and with my fabulous clients to help them work through some of their challenges. Katie strongly recommends doing The Work by writing out thoughts on paper, to encourage honest response.For instance, if I want to have someone else be a part of my life in a significant way, and they are important to me, then how they choose to live and operate is going to have significant effects on me.

Those who pin happiness and peace to other people or circumstances will struggle to resolve the chasm between their thoughts and reality. Katie's co-author, Stephen Mitchell, is the author of many bestselling works including Tao Te Ching, The Selected Poetry of Rainer Maria Rilke, Gilgamesh, The Gospel According to Jesus, The Book of Job, The Second Book of the Tao, The Iliad, and The Odyssey. You might be fishing for evidence that your partner doesn't love you because deep down, you're paranoid.For nearly a decade she spiraled down into paranoia, rage, self-loathing, and constant thoughts of suicide; for the last two years she was often unable to leave her bedroom. Okay, my other main disagreement is that the application of the work felt too rationalistic and, again, simplistic to me. The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light.