Millions of women have experienced the same crazy-making (not so) funhouse that is a daughter’s relationship with her narcissistic mother. This book helps you recognize the signs of a narcissistic mother, explains why your relationship is so strained, and offers supportive techniques for making the journey of self-healing. 3. Narcissistic Mothers (and Their Loveless Baggage): 6 Daughters of Toxic Parents Offer Crucial Insight for Your Self-Healing by Abigail Trent, Eileen Huxley, Lizzie Duarth, Tina Ejiofor, Annelise Burlett, and Paisley What hit home was the generational pattern. The last thing I want is to gift-wrap my biological mother's worst qualities and pass them down to my kid. This book helped me see the landmines in my path and taught me how not to plant new ones for my child. Asking an adult to show compassion towards that won’t heal, but continue to allow us to feel the responsibility of holding a specific feeling for our parent. You will discover all the dysfunctional beliefs and habits that you developed during your childhood. Now it's time for me to really commit to my recovery. I am going to use your book to guide me and your voice to be my friend and ally. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for writing the book. Know that you are speaking to people directly and changing lives.

Your book explained so much to me and put into words what I needed to hear. I'm not imagining it or being over-sensitive. I didn't get the love, empathy and support I needed to grow and flourish. It wasn't my fault. Your book validated my feelings and my experience. My mum didn't have what she needed to parent me. My relationship with my mum is not so emotionally-charged any more. I am not twisting myself all out of shape to try to get her approval. I am civil but I don't share my emotions or personal things with her.

Sons of Narcissistic Mothers

This book helps to shed light on a lot of identity issues that children face. It also helps you to identify if your mother was a narcissist. I’ve worked through therapy and I have an understanding of what’s going on, however my brain never shuts up and I want some type of release from it. So when I saw the subtitle “quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve”, I knew I had to at least give it a try. Mothers with narcissistic tendencies can leave long-term effects on their daughters. But learning how your mother’s behaviors affected you as a child and now as an adult can lead you toward finding relief. That being said, I would say this book is more an eye-opener than much else. Bear with me - it does explain what a narcissistic mother is, how these women's daughters grow up and the adults these girls become, but I didn't find it very helpful otherwise.

The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse by Debbie MirzaOur childhood impacts our overall health, especially if we had adverse experiences that went unhealed. Narcissistic Mothers: The Characteristics of the Narcissistic Parent: Jealousy, Manipulation, Gaslighting. Consequences on Daughters. Recovery from abuse of a toxic relationship with a mother by Elizabeth Ex Because abuse and manipulation may have felt like the norm growing up, you may accept these behaviors in your adult relationships, too. But try to remember that abusive tendencies are never a part of healthy partnerships. Regularly blaming yourself I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” by Brené Brown

According to Maurya, this belief stems from having a mother who only provides you with love and approval if you do what she wants.

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

I think this book is a great stepping stone for a lot of women learning how to traverse a difficult mother-daughter relationship, but I don’t enjoy the hard reality of a mother never changing and the responsibility of communication being placed entirely on the daughter. This book kind of enforces the feeling so many of us with narc moms already feel— managing mother is our responsibility. This may be a great resource for women with low-level narc moms, but in cases where the narcissism is a lot more severe and the effects of it devastating, this book is a slap in the face. The authors explain the impact of this kind of emotional abuse, and they provide clear, highly effective techniques for overcoming the legacy of a narcissistic mother as well as other types of toxic mothers. If you have a narcissistic mother, you need a way to deal with the aftermath of emotional — and maybe physical — abuse . You simply must process the negative aftereffects of having survived a childhood with a narcissist. The abuse has affected you, and you do need to work through it so that you can get free of the patterns it has created in your life. To do that, you’re going to need something that can help you find your way into the light.

Enlightening. Two phrases and one situation in the book are straight from my childhood, confirming my suspicion of what I experienced—a vulnerable narcissist.I am my own worst critic." These are the words I lived by me entire life. What will people think of me? What if they think I am stupid? What if I’m not pretty enough? What if…what if…what if!!! Then I met Dr. Karyl McBride and my “what if” changed to “so what." Believe me writing it is much simpler than living it. The deep rooted narcissistic abuse I lived every day with my mother defined me. I allowed it to define me. I allowed it to run my life, stop me from living my dreams and from feeling and experiencing true love. I am so grateful for my therapeutic time with Dr. Karyl. Understanding how the maternal narcissism I grew up with has controlled the rest of my life as an adult, and then actually changing this for myself, has been a flight of freedom for me. I can’t wait until Dr. Karyl’s book comes out. There are so many of us who need this book. I wish more people had access to the therapy she offers here in Denver as it certainly changed my life in ways I never dreamed possible." Thank you to Netgalley and New Harbinger Publications for a digital galley in exchange for my honest review.