And understanding does mean – almost always – not judging, even if some things seem to you wrong or stupid. I have been trying to suggest what happens in the warmth and understanding of a facilitating relationship with a therapist.

It seems that gradually, painfully, the individual explores what is behind the masks he presents to the world, and even behind the masks with which he has been deceiving himself. Rogers believed in self-actualization, the idea that every individual has the ability to find the best solutions for themselves and make appropriate modifications in their everyday life. Despite its challenges, unconditional positive regard remains a cornerstone of humanistic therapy and an important factor in promoting personal growth and positive change. In his training as a psychologist, Rogers naturally absorbed the idea that he controlled the relationship with the client, and that it was his job to analyze and treat the patient as if he or she was an object.We’ve already told you a thing or two about existentialism’s fundamental tenets while summarizing Being and Nothingness , the central work by, arguably, the greatest existentialist philosopher of the 20 th century, Jean-Paul Sartre. They cease to be a rigid set of rules about who they must be, and are transformed into a person who can ask and decide easily upon the question "What does this mean to me? Rogers was, for the decade that followed, the Psychologist of America, likely to be consulted by the press on any issue that concerned the mind, from creativity to self-knowledge to the national character.

In short, client-centered therapy held that change would only happen through the experience of a relationship, and that it was the therapist's role to provide an environment in which personal growth might occur. Rather than trying to ‘fix’ the client, Rogers felt it much more important was to listen absolutely to what a person was saying, even if it seemed wrong, weak, strange, stupid or bad. In fact, Rogers believed that the therapist's unconditional positive regard for their client was more important than any specific technique or intervention. He found that many of these patients had negative feelings about themselves because they held inaccurate beliefs about themselves. Because it’s easier for us to find excuses than to find ways; even though the former brings frustration, it is much more comfortable than the latter which always comes with a bit of fear.A person with an increased level of self-worth values himself and can be gracious while getting a compliment. The person will continue to enjoy driving through implementing the principle of an increasingly existential lifestyle. Great review, but the statement: “For example, if a counselor genuinely finds a client’s behavior upsetting or potentially dangerous, I wonder how that could be expressed in a way that doesn’t detract from unconditional positive regard…” I will take issue with, but would want to discuss some time, too long for here, but didn’t want to forget.

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Carl Rogers noted that while the problems people present during psychotherapy “run the gamut of life’s experiences”––troubles with school, or spouse, or employer, or with one’s own uncontrollable or bizarre behavior, or with one’s frightening feelings––”there is perhaps only one problem. They were usually very concerned with what others thought of them and what they ought to be doing in given situations. The humanistic psychologist Rogers, was a supporter of the founder of positive psychology, Abraham Maslow's humanistic theory of personality. Consequently, “to will to be that self which one truly is, is indeed the opposite of despair,” and (Rogers adds) “this choice is the deepest responsibility of man. That’s it, Rogers realized: all we need to live a more fulfilled life is to feel that our desires and actions are normal!

Thus to an increasing degree he becomes himself - not a facade of conformity to others, not a cynical denial of all feeling, nor a front of intellectual rationality, but a living, breathing, feeling, fluctuating process - in short, he becomes a person. If a refund is payable to you we will process the refund as soon as possible, and, in any case within fourteen (14) days.

And, according to the fathers of psychology, there’s something disturbing deep within each and every one of us; and it is a psychotherapist’s job to help an individual either to do away with these dark impulses (Freud) or to embrace them and incorporate them in a healthier way in his being (Jung). The therapeutic personality is seen as a key factor in the success of therapy, and unconditional positive regard is one of the factors of empathy that contribute to a positive therapeutic relationship. Very Good The late Carl Rogers, founder of the humanistic psychology movement, revolutionized psychotherapy with his concept of client-centred therapy. There’s another quote from this book we thought we shouldn’t omit, especially having in mind the fact that one of the most influential Western intellectuals at the moment is Jor The question becomes: "Am I living in a way which is deeply satisfying to me, and which truly expresses me?