I was lucky that I was able to continue having a home and friends and siblings that supported me throughout. I was six-weeks old when my parents adopted me from Chile - a predominantly Catholic and fairly socially-conservative country which only legalised divorce in 2004.

His lovely, genuine response was along the lines of “I’m glad you were able to tell me, I’m sorry if you’re struggling, but I don’t think being bi is a problem and I don’t think it means you can’t be happy. Hopefully, 'coming out' won't be a thing one day and the LGBTQ community will be accepted for who they are, regardless of their sexuality. When you're 'hetero', you don't have to announce that you're a sexual being, and it's an uncomfortable topic to discuss with your parents, regardless of sexuality. She was 13 years older than me which made the whole process that much harder as I wasn't only coming to terms with liking a woman for the first time, but also our age gap.NowagoodfewyearslaterIdoidentifymoreaslesbian-Imonlyinterestedindatingandhaverelationshipswithawoman,butIamstillattractedtomen.

I sometimes try and think of being bi as having a funky taste in music or being really passionate about Italian cheese – people may be surprised and intrigued when you tell them, but not in a bad way, and if they turn their noses up, they’re the weird ones. There are still ways of having the life you imagined when you thought you were straight so don’t worry, but you will be so much happier, having accepted your sexuality, that the life you imagine for yourself will become so much richer! While not all stories were precisely to my taste, there were some definite stand-outs and no total flops. As a sex educator who identifies as bi, I’ve struggled deeply with my own identity at times—and I'm candid about sex for a living!I had a girlfriend tell me I wasn’t bi at all and told many people who knew about me coming out that I was just bicurious at the time and have it all figured out now. What happens if you don’t consider yourself bisexual and you find yourself in a foursome or some other sexual scenario and it just happens, with no forethought or planning?

The stories told in Bisexual and Gay Husbands are taken from an Internet mailing list, which allows people to speak freely and in anonymity, yet also encourages the development of a tightly knit community. I knew I needed to talk to someone before my mental state hit a dangerous low and I was too scared of what my friends and family would think, so I found other ways to talk about it. I was fortunate to visit Chile several times during my childhood, but it wasn't until last year that the topic of my sexuality came up in conversation with friends over there. I would say to anyone out there that may be experiencing a fluid sexuality that you can figure it out. A lot of the prejudice directed my way was based upon one or another assumption: 'There is only straight or gay', and anyone claiming to be attracted to women as well as men 'cannot be trusted'.For some, there's a fear of how people - especially friends and family - will respond; 'Will they support me? My first was with a girl and was around the time I started noticing guys which made me believe I was gay. Although sexuality is fluid, and that means anybody’s sexuality and preferences can change over time, if I say I’m bi, I’m just bi, not confused! It has been almost two weeks since Mary spent her birthday at the lake where she was educated in the way of lovemaking. And meeting people who were L, G, B and/or T helped me realise that there’s no reason you can’t be happy and fulfilled as a bisexual person – it’s not the experience I assumed I would have, but it can be just as fun!

But the first time I watched a film or tv show and felt sexually attracted to the person on the screen, it was a woman – a scene in American Pie, I think! I didn't realise the weight of hiding such a big part of myself from my family until it was released - my body instantly felt lighter. I knew I was bisexual, but given the biphobia I was getting even from the gay community, using the word "queer" seemed safer.But by the time I was 21 I realised I was unhappy, that being in denial about my sexuality was affecting my relationships and that I couldn’t ignore it or make it go away. I knew he wouldn’t be happy, but honestly I thought he’d be somewhat understanding considering I’m his child. I came out as soon as I realized that I was bi, as I had experienced several years of compulsive heterosexuality and didn’t think about it for a long time. I was in a long-term relationship with a guy at the time, but it's hard to explain to someone that being gay is bigger than them, and bigger than you. Being bisexual has always meant more to me than who I have sex with — it's intrinsic to my identity.