A collar is no more or less distracting than a wedding ring as they are both simply symbols of an ongoing relationship dynamic. One symbolizes a partnership, the other symbolizes an authority flow. House collars are also used in clubs, homes and in organizations that provide social spaces to protect a submissive. House collars show that the submissive is under the guidance of the house and is not to be approached. This is often used with an inexperienced submissive who are not ready to make their own choices yet and need time to learn.

Peel the soiled, pads off. Look carefully at the shape as you remove them so that you can reposition the clean pads properly. A collar does not mean that the person is involved in a 24/7 or TPE relationship. And to be fair, I think it’s important to note that it doesn’t even mean that one is a full submissive or even a sub/ bottom at all!! I worked with someone in a 24/7 D/s relationship and she wore a not really that subtle collar. She wasn’t discreet in other ways either, and it affected her professional reputation immensely as her judgement was considered to be wildly off for the office. (The office was not that conservative either.) She was the first to be laid off. I think there are so many factors that it’s impossible to give a right answer. It sounds like you two are somewhat flexible–“take off as little as possible.” So balance 1) how often you’d be willing to remove it, 2) what level of discomfort you’d be willing to go through to hide it, and 3) how much risk you’re willing to take exposing it.The thing to keep in mind with a d/s relationship and the workplace is something to keep in mind everywhere (not *just* the office, but especially the office) – yes, you may be a 24/7 sub, but that’s an agreement you and your dom have consented to – your coworkers haven’t. And it’s general good sense to only involve people in your scene, in whatever way, when they are willing and consenting to take part. The meaning of the collar in BDSM varies depending on the relationship between the dominant and submissive partners. For some couples, the collar represents a permanent commitment, similar to a wedding ring. For others, it is a symbol of trust and intimacy, indicating that the submissive partner is willing to surrender control to the dominant partner.

Protection collar - This is when a Dom wants to show that a submissive is protected and is commonly used in dungeons or kinky house parties. This lets other Doms know that while this sub is not owned, they are not are free to touch or approach. These collars are typically dog collars or leather collars. I agree with this. LGBTQ identity is intrinsic. Historically (and presently), a person who is LGBTQ has been denied basic rights given to straight/cis people. It’s not only difficult, it’s demeaning to expect a person to deny their spouse or potential spouse and also be denied the privileges and rights that come with marriage.Leave your collar on at all times, except when cleaning it or as directed by your healthcare provider. In this case, I’m thinking about it like this: We still do pretty well separate out sex and relationship dynamics from the role of the person in your life when we’re dealing with coworkers. Like reasonably you know your coworkers have sex with their spouses, fight with them, have more private and deeper positive and negative feelings about their lives with this person.

Hi OP! I get your dilemma here–I’m a sub too, I know what a collar means, and I get not wanting to take it off at all. In my community, people in a committed relationship often wear a collar. This can be married, it can be a long-term committed partnership, the main point is the commitment. Usually that means they’re in love because usually people don’t want to make a commitment like that without that affection there. I wear a Claddagh ring. Have done since I was given it on my 18th birthday by my mother. Thing is there are connotations to how it is worn and what hand and finger it’s on (The way I’m wearing it right now would traditionally indicate I’m looking for love). Its not my intention but that’s the implication. Wearing it facing the other way would imply I’m in a relationship and unavailable. Is that TMI about me? It’s very meaningful to me that this was given to me by my mother and my hand feels strange when the ring is not there, has done since I tried it on when my mum was buying it before my birthday but wasn’t allowed wear it until I turned 18. But if OP was “outed” as a submissive and stopped getting promoted as a result, I would be up in arms about that because it just isn’t anyone’s business and is not a fair criterion for assessing professional performance (with a few limited exceptions which would probably be TMI for a publicly available blog!). If you are sitting in preparation to stand please sit for a moment before standing to ensure you do not become dizzy.

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Instead of this I think the collaring by Tarl Cabot in the 10th book of Norman (Tribesmen of Gor, p. 359-360) is pretty good to show how it can be performed. I also don’t see what’s particularly extreme about it. In my community, at least, couples that are in a serious committed relationship do tend to go with collars of some kind, and at least a third of the people I know are in a long-term relationship (married or similar level of commitment), and in most of those, one of the partners chooses to wear a collar. Most of them have some kind of ‘public’ collar that looks like normal jewelry. It’s not what I would call rare!

Avoid lifting or carrying anything heavy. Also avoid strenuous activity, like running, or other high-impact movement. The use of collars in BDSM is a common practice that serves multiple purposes, including establishing dominance and submission, signifying ownership, and enhancing the overall experience. The wearing of a collar is a physical symbol of the power exchange between dominant and submissive partners.If by "collaring" you mean the event when a submissive becomes submissive to that specific dominant in a D/s relationship I haven't heard of any commonly accepted formal process.