Habit of Winning: Stories to Inspire, Motivate and Unleash the Winner Within

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Winning, according to Waitley is not about that fist-bumping bromance I discussed earlier. It is not about demolishing your competition. It is simply about developing a positive, growth mindset and building those wining habits. Self projection can include mantra’s and affirmations to help kep the idea of your future success firmly in mind. 2. Make Clearly Defined Goals Human relationships are often dominated by comparisons and competition from the early years of our lives.

Showing up is more than just walking into the room and shutting the door,’ Jill notes. ‘It’s leaving your phone at your desk or turning it off. It’s telling your teammates that you are not to be disturbed unless the building catches fire. There are six paradigms for difficult interactions. It is the goal in habit 4: think win/win to be enabled to enact the win/win paradigm as much as possible. It’s important to recognize when, where, and how to use it. Stephen Covey’s think win/win paradigm can help us do that. The Win/Win: Everybody is HappyWhen we are ourselves, we tap into this energy. Our soul aligns with this energy and we can use it fully go after and attain heights higher than we ever previously thought possible. This habit is all about seeing the positive things in life. Being in a constant state of gratitude is what helps people carry on even in the toughest of times. Developing this mindset is as simple as keeping a gratitude journal. Simply write down three positive encounters that you had a part in creating, everyday. Your brain will begin to recognize positive situations unfolding and you can take full advantage of them. Gratitude also insulates you from the negativity in the world. If you only notice the bad things happening in life, it’s going to cause you stress. 5. Solution-oriented We think about succeeding in terms of someone else losing – if I win, you lose, if you win, I lose. It’s the mentality of fighting for a larger piece of the pie. But what if both of us could eat some of the pie and be fully satisfied? Prakash Iyer's style is direct and simple. He has touched various aspects of life, with an emphasis on leadership. In a study conducted by the Harvard Business Review, limiting your choices in life and making fewer decisions can help you develop the self-discipline necessary to build winning habits. Therefore, by taking out the negatives and filling your life with positive energy, you can eliminate distractions and focus on the habits that matter to you most. 4. Keep it super simple.

In one habit 4: think win/win example, Stephen Covey worked with a large real estate company that held annual sales meetings where top performing employees were presented awards. The first time Covey attended, about 40 people received awards — for achievements based on comparisons, like “Most Sales” and “Highest Earned Commissions” — out of the 800 employees at the meeting. Despite all the fanfare, the other 760 people had essentially lost; the company wanted to instill a Win/Win culture, but they had created a Win/Lose system. It is about knowing your end goal, but it is more than that. Rather than just having an end goal make a movie in your head that shows you achieving that goal. A few seconds of thoughtful silence that arise between a comment and a response can be vital to the success of a crucial conversation,’ Jill tells us. You cannot become a winner if you are hanging out with losers. This may even mean that you have to go at it alone for awhile. But getting the losers out of your life is a must. This can also mean getting the losing thoughts out of your head that have been instilled by hanging out with people who don’t want you to win. This means getting rid of limiting beliefs which I show you how to exactly do on this post I wrote on the subject: How To Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs Everything matters. Putting everything together may not make you the richest person you know in monetary wealth. Mr. Scrooge was wealthy until he had some bad figgy-pudding and turned his life around.Of course, you’ll choose different paradigms for different situations. In a sports game, you’ll likely choose a win/lose, but a win/win is best for most interperesonal relatinoships. In fact, Win/Win is generally the only viable option in interpersonal relationships. If both parties don’t win, they both ultimately lose in the long-term effectiveness of the relationship. Born out of the ancient Greek philosophy of stoicism, negative visualization involves picturing yourself losing what you have. While that doesn’t sound positive, it’s a useful exercise. For example, imagine your car vanished out of the driveway and you weren’t able to replace it. Really imagine how that would affect your life. Next time you jump in your car, you’ll be grateful to have it. How is this a successful habit? You’ll begin to treat where you are in life as a gift. Your problems will be of small consequence because you’ll be so grateful for all the things going right. 3. Choosing love

Self projection is simply the act of having a very clear and distinct picture of what you want to achieve. What is persistent consistency. Basically, you have to keep doing something all the time, every day, that is consistency. The behavior has to be automatic for it to be a habit. You can’t just do it when you feel like it. You can not do it sporadically. You can’t do it sometimes or once in a blue moon. Make it part of your routine, part of your schedule.

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The Think win-win resolution can be challenging and may seem impossible sometimes. It is the habit of highly effective people to engage in longer dialogues, even when it seems like you have reached the endpoint. Real maturity is listening to others carefully to comprehend their goals and perspective. It then follows by expressing your point of view. The end goal is to solve problems that neither party could have done on their own. 2. The Win-Lose: I Beat You But this means giving up things that are taken away from you being rested. Like drinking, partying, drugs and hanging out with people who drain your energy. I asked my 8-year-old son what “winning is not a some-time thing, it’s an all-time thing. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.” Means to him. Focus your mind and attention on the business of the meeting. Develop the habit of recognizing and rejecting distractions to give your whole focus to the other person. The Cambridge English Dictionary defines "habit" as something someone does often and regularly, sometimes without knowing that the activity is occurring. A study by psychologist Wendy Wood at the University of Southern California found that habits account for more than 40% of people's actions each day. Some scientists believe that the human tendency to develop habits — good and bad — is an evolutionary development of the brain. The brain uses about 20% of the body's energy, though it occupies about 2% of a person's body weight. Dr. Marcus Raichle at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis discovered that the average person burns about 320 calories per day just thinking. A 2018 University of British Columbia indicates that the brain is hardwired to conserve energy, thus favoring activities that do not require active thought (habit).

Being and sustaining a life full of winning means doing certain things. Maintaining certain traits and attributes about yourself that when they come together, winning is pretty much inevitable. When it comes to how to be a winner, once you learn how to be one, all it takes is continuing on the same path and living out these certain traits. Either a Win/Lose or Lose/Win paradigm will bring a short-term win to one party, but the losing side will develop negative feelings that harm the relationship in the long term. In a business dealing, if I get a win in this negotiation, you may walk away and decide you don’t want to work with me in the future. That becomes a loss for me too. Prudent Money Management:Successful people live within their means, avoid unnecessary debt, and make informed financial decisions. Financial discipline involves prioritizing needs over wants and being mindful of expenditures. Jill explains: ‘Coined by a group of researchers at the turn of the century, “crucial conversations” refer to interactions of “high stakes, differing views, and strong emotions”.Hopefully you see by now that Waitley’s, “winner” is not defined by the guy who drives the biggest car or who has the biggest bank account. The winner is about much more than that. People with a Lose/Win mindset lose not only in their interactions, but also in their own well-being: They tend to suppress a lot of feelings, which can fester and bubble up in anger, resentment, cynicism, and psychosomatic illnesses that can especially affect the respiratory, nervous, and circulatory systems.Recognizing these situations is important to understanding habit 4: think win/win. Lose/Lose: If I Can’t Win, Neither Can You By doing this you become the confident professional you want to — the act becomes the persona. You win.’