Taking Charge of Her Marriage: A FLR Tale of Spanking, Figging, and Pegging

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Gentlemen, remember, you’re not just an observer here. The maintenance spanking is as much about you as your lady. You should approach it with respect and understanding of its purpose. You might feel a mix of anticipation, vulnerability, and even excitement. Allow yourself to be swept up in the ritual and savour the feeling of being under your lady’s control. Let the spanking be an affirmation of your devotion, a testament to your place in the relationship, and above all, a tribute to your beloved Dominant. Aftercare, Emotional Connection and Rewards Before you dismiss the idea of corporal punishment of you husband as weird or cruel or immoral, think seriously about this “normal” form of spousal control and think seriously about its effects. For most men the state of marriage (particularly monogamy) goes against the grain once they have passed the honeymoon phase. When they remain married they do so, they feel, out of a sense of obligation to their wife or children if there are any. That is a good thing but it means he feels he is doing you a favor by staying in the marriage and carrying out the duties of a husband and father. The threat of rejection hurts a lot more than the hardest of spankings and humiliates a lot more than the most embarrassing punishment. After a good, hard spanking, on the other hand, a husband feels both regret for the action that brought about the punishemnt and appreciation for the wife who has taken her time to give him the gift of correction. Had she made that point the day before, when I was at the peak of my agitation, I probably would have asserted that the whole thing should have been readily apparent, so why did I need to point it out? Consensual spanking is a fun, beneficial, and intimate activity for a woman to administer to her man, however it is absolutely essential that basic safety is observed.

The Johnsons and the Millers are neighbors in our age group—empty nesters with kids out building families of their own. Marge, Evelyn and I see, or at least talk to, each other almost every day, and the men frequently golf together when the weather allows. The six of us like to gather every week or two, especially in the summer when we can cook and eat outside. I gazed at him, wearing a pleasant smile, waiting for him to continue, but the poor man was flummoxed.asking for a spanking Bedroom Submission Callipygous Commentary Dressed For Spanking erotic spanking F/M paddling Flashing foolishness Highly Spankable lingerie Love Our Lurkers Day Memories Men in Panties Paddles paddling panties Political Commentary Potpourri Schoolgirl paddlings school paddlings spanked in panties spanking spanking bench Spanking Parties Stories switching Uncategorized White Panties wtf Archives Our friends had a charming view of your bright red bottom while you stood there. Marge and Evelyn seemed to enjoy the sight immensely. Strangely, I don’t think Sam or Bill so much as glanced in your direction through the entire thirty minutes.

If you are introducing spanking to an established relationship, or a new relationship with a reluctant partner, you can apply the same tactics and psychology with which you control a loving man in other ways. Spanking will be a life changing addition to your relationship that will enhance your bond and smooth your interactions. Your man should be eager to endure a bit of discomfort for the huge improvements to your relationship. If he is a strong man he should have no fear of having to endure spanking from his Lady. If he does not want to because it hurts and he doesn't want to handle pain, a good long stint of chastity and denial, or the removal of other perks or delights should help bring him around to a more correct way of thinking on the subject. Once he is used to your spankings, no matter how he felt before, he will become less effected by the pain, and will become subtly addicted to the endorphins that are released by his body during administration. While we enjoyed this type of play for many years, over time she started to enjoy giving the spankings more than receiving them, and I started enjoying receiving spankings more than giving them. Very much in sync with each other! As was the case, it eventually turned into her being a Mistress almost all the time with me making a few guest appearances as her Master. As for the husband who has been spanked or threatened with spanking, he does not have the resentment he feels when the ultimate weapon is rejection. Instead, he feels truly sorry for whatever behavior brought on the punishment and truly appreciative of the wife who cares enough to discipline him. In fact, most wives I’ve talked with who engage in Domestic Discipine, including myself, require that the husbands thank them when a disciplinary measure has been completed. So, why do so many husbands who have asked for these relationships want it to feel as if they didn’t? Many (not all) of us are comfortable with the idea that, like a parent, she’s not confined to taking action only on rules that have been spelled out in advance. Rather, she can determine, in the moment, when behavior crosses a line. We’re okay with that line being fuzzy in the meantime.Yes, dear.” His pale complexion flushed to scarlet as he recalled the humiliation of that evening a month ago.

She became very proficient with the cane and could strike hard enough to be extremely painful without being brutal. Nevertheless my bottom would be covered in parallel red welts for 10 days or so afterwards. Catherine: “In our relationship, maintenance spanking is like Sunday brunch – regular, intimate, and something we both look forward to. It keeps things spicy and allows me to establish dominance in a very tangible way. It’s our own dance of power and trust. My advice? Make it a ritual, make it regular, but above all, make it yours. Tailor it to your relationship’s needs and let it remind you of your unique dynamic.” When the husband feels the bottom line is rejection or its threat he resents his wife because, as I’ve said, he feels he is the one doing the favor by staying in the relationship. He will think to himself, If she thinks she can do so much better without me, let her try. He may even say this at times. And where do you go from there? Most women in a marriage, especially if there are children, feel even more trapped than their husbands. Because a mother’s commitment to her children is stronger than even the best of fathers and because she knows it is best for the children that the marriage stay together, most wives do not want to make good on their threat of rejection. This increases her despair and makes her feel even more powerless to affect her husband’s behavior. Discipline is based on my husband Alice following my rules. Obviously the over-arching rule is that I am in charge and my decision is final. In practice our loving FLR has dialogue and even some negotiation. Alice is an intelligent sissy so can have opinions and ideas as well. I’ll look at each of my main discipline rules. 1 Enforced feminisation How open are you about the FLR aspect of your relationship? Do your friends and family know? If not, how do you think they would react? If so, how did they react?

The plain fact is, many men in these relationships want it to feel like discipline is imposed, i.e., that it’s going to happen whether they like it or not. Yes, I certainly did do that,” I said with a laugh. “Remind me of how I corrected you that evening in front of the Johnsons and the Millers.” Isabella: “Maintenance spanking is an essential part of our routine. It’s like a scheduled board meeting in a successful company; it’s regular, expected, and sets the tone for our roles. For me, it’s a means to underscore my authority. It’s direct, tangible, and a clear reminder of our agreed-upon dynamics. I would absolutely recommend it to any woman in an FLR. It’s a powerful, straightforward tool for reinforcing your authority.” Frequency

It is of course totally your decision whether to spank at all. Try to keep an open mind about it, and find out if it something you could learn to enjoy. Most women who spank find they enjoy the power, the intimacy, the joy of their partner's devotion, and the fun of the act itself. It is a wonderful way to release frustration, allow man to absorb some of your stress for you, and to settle relationship tension. Even if you do not enjoy it, for your good and that of your man, it is still highly recommended to enhance your chastity control and the strength of your FLR. Even limited to less regular maintenance spankings that you don't really enjoy, spanking is so beneficial you should still seriously consider it. Over time, you might find you enjoy it a lot more than you ever imagined you would. Finally, as in any healthy adult relationship, there will be lots of discussion and negotiation about each party’s needs and about what is working and what is not. A female- led relationship is not a female- dictated relationship. “Consensual non-consent” and the psychology of the disciplined/submissive male Last Fall, my interest in being paddled fell to zero overnight. Leukemia? Who knows. But it’s the reason I now post so few pictures of men being spanked.

Our inability to agree became a major stressor. I honestly believe it might have been better, both for the relationship and for the project, had the client simply anointed one of us “Leader.” Rather, many genuinely wish their control over the whole thing could feel more limited. They recognize, however, that at the end of the day, both parties are adults who are entering into this kind of relationship because it fits their needs and, importantly, that either could terminate it if it stops meeting those needs. Psychological submission can be significant even in fully consensual FLR relationships His view was that since he had more overall experience, I should just defer to him. My view was that I had much more experience with the client and better insight into the resolution they were most likely to support. I prefer to focus on discipline to make our FLR work smoothly. As a happily married couple, our FLR provides the framework for our daily lives. As the leader it falls on me to make sure that we don’t stray from the discipline rules that make it work successfully. Alice may moan at times but fully accepts that in the end that I’m right to operate it the way I do.