I had a girl friend that had sex with her father for many years. It was not a big deal to me, I was more concern if she want to have sex with me and not her past. When she found out it was no big deal to me, then it was not that big of a deal to her either. I think the big fear is, "what will others think of "me" if others find out". The problem is one feels they have to keep it a secret, which is true. If ever one thought it was no big deal, then it would be no big deal. But all it take is one person who thinks it is a big deal, then it is a big deal. It sounds like you are having trouble facing the obvious - yes you did molest your sister. She was four years younger, therefore it was an obvious abuse of power on your part. You are her brother, therefore you betrayed her implicit trust in you. She was 9, therefore she could not be consenting. You should be careful about using words like "we" and the nature of your abuse of her being not serious or innocent. You should be big enough to face the truth - you abused your power, betrayed her trust and turned her from your innocent blameless younger sister into a vehicle for your entirely self absorbed sexual experiments that had nothing to do with her or her feelings. Do you think fellatio is an innocent experience for an entirely pre pubescent girl, to say nothing of the incest that you introduced without her consent onto her life. You manipulated your relationship with her to gratify yourself sexually. I think you would be surprised about just how much resentment your sister holds against you. I would not be surprised if she has very strong negative feelings for you. But, of course, the effect of abuse is a basic inability to have a voice in regard to what is happening to ones own body and life. You isolated her from the rest of the family and had your way. I would suggest writing a letter to her offering your sincerest apologies and take one hundred percent responsibility for what you did. As well, I would suggest that you tell her that you will not reviolate her boundaries again by telling anyone what you did in relation to her. Give her the opportunity to think and feel about her experience and she can decide who, when and why to disclose. You obviously need therapy if you are attracted to your sister. Frankly, you have a great deal to feel ashamed of. Your sisters so-called lovely personality probably has more to do with her inability to assert herself in relationships. A natural ability you no-doubt seriously compromised. Get real. Your actions were clearly wrong and predatory. But, in the absence of your sisters ability to defend herself , you probably will continue deluding yourself that it had somehing to do with familial love. Which it never did. Something you know. I would suggest you get your head right before contributing again to this forum.

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Look at a adult man want to have sex and pay a women to have sex with him, whats the big deal? But to some they want to put them in jail. What in the world for? For having sex enjoyment?

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