Brené wrote about the theory in her book I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think? There is a broad tendency to believe that certain things, namely a successful career or a terrific outfit, will boost our self-esteem – but the reality is entirely different. A popular speaker, she has given various TED Talks and is the author of several other titles, including Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection.

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In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart.I think of my upbringing in an extremely strict religious cult, and realize I've witnessed and experienced the damage of a shame-based culture firsthand. People tend to point fingers when they don’t want to face their feelings; hence anger and shame are linked. The book by Brene Brown raises awareness about the power of vulnerability and how we can explore shame with honesty and vulnerability.

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I also can see that the book was published before her TED talks so maybe something shifted for her as she did those talks and perhaps her more recent writing is better. This is, at its root, a technique for people to reclaim control over their “weak” feelings by demonstrating strength.It's highly addictive to get core insights on personally relevant topics without repetition or triviality. She dives deep to get to the root of what triggers fear and shame within us and why we feel certain situations more strongly than others. Shame presents itself in a variety of ways, including redness and trembling, difficulty swallowing, and even more acute symptoms like the inability to get out of bed. Perhaps you texted someone you liked and were flatly rejected, or maybe you made a major blunder at work in front of all your colleagues.

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The topic of shame is one so little discussed but in this brilliant book it is explored but an expert from every angle.It takes a great deal of conscious thinking or mindfulness to even bring the habit of judging into our awareness. Real power doesn’t force us to take it away from others—it’s something we create and build with others. I had a non-thinking task of sorting through multiple packets of photos from my dad's life to select a number to use in a book I am making to assist the staff in his care facility to know who he is, so it was a perfect audio-book day. Most people believe that having successful work or a wonderful body is necessary for having strong self-esteem, but this is not the case.